How to speak up for yourself | Adam Galinsky

Speaking up is hard to do, even when you know you should. Learn how to assert yourself, navigate tricky social situations and expand your personal power with sage guidance from social psychologist Adam Galinsky.

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42 thoughts on “How to speak up for yourself | Adam Galinsky”

  1. If you apply this rule to every situation you encounter whether it be speaking up, or the many situations you may find yourself in 9/10 you'll be at peace with others and with yourself:Treat others how you would like to be treated. aka the Golden RuleAs much as we hear that saying it is so true when applied. When applied to a situation where you have to speak up it would affect everything from how you say something, and when you say it.Like I said, it's not a cure all since we live in an imperfect world where you can't please everyone. But the more you practice the golden rule the more you will see your relationships and overall quality of life improve!

  2. Thank you for this vital talk. I believe this information will prove useful to a myriad of people; the concepts seem universally applicable and useful.

  3. THANKS TED. I am currently suffering from depression. I agreed with him. My boyfriend told me to pull myself up and stop sugar coating my life relying on him last night. I needed power.

  4. Very good talk. I definitely agree with the Mama Bear effect. The only time I was confident enough to negotiate a good pay offer was when I'd just had a newborn and was thinking about supporting them. Need to channel that more.

  5. If like Justine Sacco you speak up and your statement gets misinterpreted, you get death threats and rejection of entire Tweeter community.

  6. The whole reason I watch Ted Talks is to learn and listen for advice from people from all walks of life…. Finding allies every now and then is a heartwarming delight…. How can one know what their perspective is when it's unclear who "they" are? Wouldn't it be wise to know what their agenda is first? I can only second guess, and for all I know, I'm dealing with the devil himself. Why would I want to cooperate and play games with evil? And the only reason I say evil, is because of the sadistic nature of their games. This love/hate approach and double speak is not helping either, perhaps intentionally so.

    Damn if you do, damn if you don't…….I don't know what they want, what I'm suppose to do, who I'm suppose to be, and the best part is, somehow this is all my fault?

    I need serenity nowwwww……. I should take up and learn Buddhism coz they seem to be more tolerant and even encourages people to seek truth based on their own path and life experience. Namaste 🙏

  7. Yeah; and it can be done without being a complete jerk or any mutters under your breath. Saying things like "no thanks" works just as good. Or, saying yes mam no mam. People that so this need to grow up and they cause unneccesay drama anyways.

  8. The speaker spoke many words… But I do not have this… "AHA"- Moment… In my opinion, he missed the decisive point.

    PS: No hate comment. Only constructive critisism.

  9. I wonder how much of the difference in flexibility between gender is social and how much is biological.
    And even more how this can be tested and quantified

  10. That is wonderful how you said we can advocate for others to find our own power and voice. I needed to hear that!

  11. 7:13 – "perspective taking is really simple".
    7:32 – "…perspective taking is hard to do".
    Its not me finding a fault…it is a nice concept tho, could be utilized in everyday's life and Adam is intelligent guy. Nice work man!

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